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Epic Pursuits Before and During Retirement

In a previous post I explored happiness and fulfillment in retirement drawing on the work of Bec Wilson, creator of the Epic Retirement Flagship Course and the author of the book, How to have an Epic Retirement.  In that post, I shared some of Bec’s suggestions concerning “Epic Pursuits” that could enable us to achieve an “engaged, curious and happy life”.  In her Workbook accompanying the course, she suggests that epic pursuits are “things you really enjoy doing, and that you want to deepen your knowledge of and get better at”- a source of joy, learning and contentment.  The Workbook helps us explore our achievements, passions, purpose, interests, and values as a basis for deciding what epic activities to pursue in retirement.

I retired as a Professor of Management in 2017 and ceased management consulting work in 2024, following the serious illness of my consulting colleague who was my co-facilitator for the previous 16 years – we had run hundreds of workshops together.  In reflecting on my own life story to date, I began to identify what epic pursuits I have undertaken both before and during my retirement:

  1. Research and writing
  2. Tennis and pickleball
  3. Social networking
  4. Travel overseas

Research and Writing

I have developed the art of writing over many years and followed the exhortation of one of my professors: “if you want to learn to write – write, write, write”.  So my writing has included theses, articles, book chapters, conference papers, blogs, e-books and training courses.   Hence my non-fiction writing has included the following:

  • Master’s research project and doctoral thesis (100,000 words) – doctorate awarded in 1996
  • Multiple published book chapters and articles on action earning and action research published in academic journals (one of my co-authored academic articles won an Award for Excellence from The Learning Organisation: An International Journal)
  • Co-author/editor of two books on action learning and action research
  • Chief editor and occasional author for a journal on action learning and action research
  • 4 blogs covering internet/social media marketing
  • Current blog, grow mindfulness.com, which has 791 posts, 977 moderated comments and a total word count in excess of 550,000 words
  • Created 15 poems incorporated in my mindfulness blog
  • Broad based articles published on Squidoo (over 100 before it was terminated), HubPages, ArticleDirectory.com and Wizzley.com, a writer’s community (also co-creator of this social media site with colleagues in Germany and the US)
  • Creator of a 6-month, online course on Social Media Marketing (comprising 24 PDFs)
  • Supervisor of Master’s and Doctoral students including recommended content and format edits; examiner of Doctoral thesis for 12 Universities, including 3 overseas (Britain, South Africa and New Zealand)
  • Developed short e-books on Affiliate Marketing and The Inner Game of Tennis.

Recently I also published an Amazon Kindle e-book, Writing for Wellness: A Pathway for Chronic Illness. 

My research and writing goals for my retirement are:
  • Complete 5 more Kindle e-books drawing on my Grow Mindfulness blog and my other publications
  • Research and write 2 X 1,000+ word articles per month for my Grow Mindfulness blog which covers topics such as mindfulness practices, chronic illness, leadership, management, health and happiness

Tennis and Pickleball

I have played tennis for more than 65 years but owing to a number of chronic conditions I have not participated in my weekly social tennis since February 2025.  Tennis was very much a part of my life since I was 9 years old.  I played at primary and secondary school, in the seminary in Melbourne, competitively at A grade and Pennant levels and socially after this.  Tennis gave me a sense of competence, motivation for maintaining my fitness and a source of relaxation.  I have written a poem about my gratitude for experiencing the joy of tennis.

However, I am currently experiencing the following chronic illnesses that impact my ability to play tennis (even socially at night):

  • arthritis in the middle finger of my right hand (I am right-handed)
  • osteopathy affecting my hips and other parts of my body
  • multi-level spinal degeneration (likely impacted by my MCAS chronic condition)
  • exercise asthma.

I decided to explore pickleball as an alternative to tennis and found that I am able to play this sport to an intermediate level.  I recently wrote about my joy in playing this game in a blog post and a poem titled, For the Love of Pickleball.  I have avoided competitive pickleball sessions and focused on social games to protect my fragile body. 

I am thoroughly enjoying the social aspects of pickleball and experimenting with new shots and ways to improve each time I play – a great source of learning! One clear advantage is that I can build on the skills and court craft I acquired through my many years of playing tennis – more than 10,000 sets of tennis.  I have played tennis on multiple surfaces – grass, concrete, bitumen, artificial grass, ant bed, clay and flexipave.  I have enjoyed playing social tennis locally as well as overseas in Auckland, Boroughbridge (Yorkshire, UK), Port Moresby and Lake Annecy (France).

My pickleball and exercise goals:
  • Continue to play social pickleball weekly
  • Undertake daily exercises provided by an exercise physiologist for my chronic conditions
  • Resume regular Tai Chi activity (both as a mindfulness practice and source of health benefits).

Social networking

I joined a social network for writers-with chronic-illness about two years ago.  The group, Creative Meetups, has a Zoom meeting each month which is currently facilitated by Jennifer Crystal, author of One Tick Stopped the Clock and a writing-to-heal coach.  The online sessions involve a stimulus piece provided by Jennifer along with time to write to the relevant theme and an opportunity to share our writing whatever form that takes.  I have been very inspired by this social connection and the creative writing of others, some of whom have very serious chronic illnesses.

The inspiration I have received from this group sharing has enabled me to write a series of poems about the stimulus topics and incorporate them in a relevant blog post.  This has proven to be an excellent stimulus to my own creative writing.  On a health front, I find that I really enjoy writing and that my pulse rate drops when I am in the process of creating a post or poem – I tend to “be-in-the-zone”.

My social networking goals are:
  • Continue to participate in the monthly, online meetings of the writers-with-chronic-illness
  • Use these meetings as a continuous source of inspiration
  • Continue to create poems stimulated by the shared stories and writing of the Creative Meetup group
  • Explore volunteering particularly visiting hospital-bound war veterans.

Travel Overseas

When I reflect on my achievements in this area, both domestically and internationally, I can feel a strong sense of gratitude for the opportunities I have had and also for the health and fitness that enabled me to undertake the relevant travel.  I have focused on my overseas travel in this post.

The best way to recall and record this travel is to categorise the travel by year:

  • 1994 – my wife and I and our two boys (aged 3 and 6) travelled to England for the World Congress on Action learning and Action Research (I was President, at the time, of the ALARA Association that sponsored and organised the Congress).  We were able to stay in Yorkshire and Bath (the location of the Congress).  We also spent a week at Lake Annecy in Northern France  with our Yorkshire-based in-laws.
  • 1995 – I travelled to England by myself to undertake research as part of a validation process for my doctoral thesis.  This research trip enabled me to visit action learning/action research experts in London, Lancaster, Nottingham, Bristol, and Brighton.  At the time, my adult son was on a working holiday at a restaurant in the Lakes District and one of my daughters was working as a child carer in a castle in Lockerbie, Scotland.  We were then able to travel together by train to Edinburgh, through snow-covered terrain.
  • 1997 – I travelled to Cartagena, Colombia, via Singapore, Los Angelos, Miami, and Bogota (a 36 hour trip).  I was attending a World Congress on action learning and action research as President of the ALARA Association (joint sponsor).  I had participated as a member of the international Planning Committee and attended the Congress as Convenor of the Organisational Development Stream and a member of the Expert Panel session.  We were overwhelmed by the 1,800 participants from 61 countries who turned up for the event (despite only 500 people registering in advance).
  • 1998 – three trips to Singapore to run workshops on action learning in Port Moresby for the International Management Centers (UK).
  • 2014 – my wife and I travelled in November/December via Hong Kong to Frankfurt, Bingen (Germany,  where we spent a week in a friend’s unit), Paris, Venice, Florence, and Rome.   We were able to spend 7 nights in each location and spent New Year’s Day in Rome (-4 Degrees Centigrade, turning a fountain to ice). 
  • 2017/2018 – my wife and I travelled in December/January via Hong Kong to Milan, Lake Como, Turin, Santa Margherita, Bologna, and Venice (New Year’s Day there).

My wife and I had planned to travel to Paris and Northern Italy again for my 80th birthday (2026).  However, I have reluctantly acknowledged that I have reached a fragile stage in relation to overseas travel, given my osteoporosis and multi-level spinal degeneration.  I can no longer sit or lie down for extended periods, even in business class plane travel. This means that I will have to travel “closer to home”.  This does not preclude my wife from travelling overseas, either by herself or with a companion.  I will have to concentrate on domestic travel and use virtual travel to enable me to gratuitously experience travelling overseas.

My travel goals are:
  • Expand my digital photo album to incorporate photos and videos of my previous overseas travel (to enable virtual travel)
  • Visit overseas sites virtually via the drone photography that is readily available on the Internet
  • Write a blog post recording domestic travel undertaken before and during retirement
  • Develop domestic travel goals for the next five years.

Reflection

Bec identifies 5 stages of retirement planning – “fragility” being one of them.  However, this may be a stage in relation to one or more epic pursuits – it may not extend to all our activities.  For example, I am still able to play pickleball but I cannot travel overseas.  I think one of the challenges is to learn to adapt retirement planning progressively as we age and not let fragility in one area contaminate our thinking about other areas of activity or epic pursuits.

The core challenge of aging and retirement is to make the most of our “spare time” in retirement, the surplus in our life.  As Bec notes, if we do not actively plan our retirement, we can be overwhelmed by boredom and negatively impact our longevity.  It is much better to plan for happiness and fulfillment in retirement.  If we grow in mindfulness through a range of mindfulness practices we can enhance our physical and mental health, develop constructive routines and find creative ways to grow and contribute.

By recalling and recording my epic pursuits before and during retirement, I have become more aware of the opportunities I have had in my life and feel a strong sense of gratitude for what I have been able to achieve.

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By Ron Passfield – Copyright (Creative Commons license, Attribution–Non Commercial–No Derivatives)

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Finding Inspiration When Living with Chronic Illness

I have previously written about the inspiration provided by Joni Mitchell and her remarkable life as a singer/songwriter despite experiencing multiple chronic illnesses.  Joni’s song Both Sides Now epitomizes her approach to chronic illness  – accepting both the dark and the light in her life.  Like many inspiring people she made the most of the light (the good things) in her life.  Joni was rewarded with multiple Grammy Awards and induction into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame.

During the recent online Creative Meetup (for writers-with-chronic-illness), our facilitator, Jennifer Crystal introduced a book by Jean-Dominique Bauby, titled The Diving-Bell & the Butterfly. This book is incredibly inspiring as it shows Jean-Dominique’s ability to make the most of what was a totally debilitating situation.  His book composed under extremely difficult conditions is replete with humour and a commitment to make the most of his devastating chronic illness.

At the time of experiencing his illness he was Editor-in-Chief of the famous Elle France – Elle being the “the  world’s largest fashion and lifestyle magazine”.   While in his early forties, when he was married with two children, he suffered a massive stroke, resulting in a condition known as “locked-in syndrome (LiS)” –  “total paralysis but still have consciousness and their normal cognitive functions”.  All he could do physically was turn his head and wink with his left eye.  Though he frequently experienced pain, he could not breathe, eat or swallow without assistance.

Jean-Dominque described his bodily condition as being “imprisoned in an invisible diving-bell”, while his mind was free to roam “like a butterfly”.  He used his very limited capabilities to revisit his memories and undertake virtual exploration of the world at large.  Though he often described his body as a “cocoon”,  he was not mentally constrained by its disabling limitations.

He used his imagination., for example, to picture his colleagues from 28 countries, striding behind their CEO on route to a major fashion conference where they would be discussing the metaphysical question “What is the ideal Elle woman?”.  Even though he had never been to Hong Kong, the site of the conference, he was able to picture the demeanour of his international colleagues and imagine the location and proceedings.

The Diving-Bell serves as a memoir of Jean-Dominique’s time in a Navy hospital after suffering his stroke.  It captures his shock and disorientation on waking from a 20-day coma to find that he was totally paralysed and unable to talk.  He shares intimate details of his hospital experience and his mental roaming with his uniquely dry humour.   

Communicating with locked-in syndrome

In his memoir, Jean-Dominique explains how he was able to communicate by virtue of his “Guardian Angel”, a speech therapist, who devised an alphabet with the letters of the alphabet arranged in order of the frequency of their use in the French language.  People, medical staff and visitors, could point to the letters in turn and he would wink to indicate that they had chosen the letter he was trying to convey.  This tiresome and slow process enabled him to express his discomfort, needs and wishes.  

The constructed alphabet was the method of communication that he used to dictate his book to Claude Mendibil who was transcribing his communications for publishing. Jean-Dominque stated that he frequently revised letter and words in his head and would memorise paragraphs to communicate them to Claude via this special alphabet.

In true humorous style, Jean-Dominique described his visitors in terms of their ability to utilize the newly devised alphabet to understand his communications.  There were the taciturn people, nervous and reluctant to get a letter or word wrong;  the impulsive who rushed in and anticipated what he was going to communicate (usually getting it wrong) and who saved him the effort of communicating by asking questions and answering them themselves; and the meticulous people who feared they would make a mistake and took things so incredibly slowly that it made an already tedious process more painful and demanding. 

Experience of medical professionals in the hospital

Jean-Dominique’s sense of being “locked in” was further aggravated by the callous treatment he received at the hands of some medical staff.  For example, an ophthalmologist arrived at his bedside unannounced and proceeded to sow together the eyelids of his right eye because the eyelids did not close in that eye – thus exposing his eye to infection  (as he subsequently learned from someone else).

Jean-Dominique described the ophthalmologist as brusque and arrogant with “a couldn’t care less attitude”.  He wondered (in his mind) whether such an uncaring medical professional was retained by the hospital to serve as a target for patients’ dislike of, or  dissatisfaction with, their overall hospital treatment. He himself frequently felt anger but kept it at a manageable level , ”like a pressure cooker”, to prevent uncontrolled release of this emotion.

There were also two orderlies who “unceremoniously dumped” him in a wheelchair (like a piece of dead meat).  Jean-Dominque’s way of managing his own maltreatment at the hands of some medical staff was to silently assign them descriptive names such as “the exterminator”.  He did, however, appreciate the care and concern offered by other medical staff.

Dealing with false rumours

Jean-Dominique not only had to deal with his locked-in syndrome but also with harmful rumours that circulated in Paris about his health condition.  As false rumours began to circulate, he decided to provide Bulletins to his circle of friends and associates (initially 60 people) to report on his life, his progress and his hopes.  He indicated that the first bulletin “repaired some of the damage caused by rumour”.  He heard that the City had “put him down for the count” or, at the very least, that he was in a “vegetable state”.  He was particularly critical of patrons of Café de Flore, “one of those base camps of Parisian snobbery that sent up rumours like flights of carrier pigeons”.  His friends overheard a conversation in the Café where he was being described as a “complete vegetable”.

His correspondence provided “gratifying results” in the form of return letters and the realisation of people that they could ”join him in his cocoon” through writing to him.  This resulted in a daily ritual whereby letters were opened for him and “spread out before his eyes”.  This proved to be a revelatory process about the character and personality of his contacts. 

Reflection

Jean-Dominique demonstrated that although you may be bedridden or severely handicapped, you can travel, at least virtually, by using your memory or intentional imagination. This mental roaming has been facilitated recently by the free release of drone images of multiple countries and scenic sites. I also have a gift from one of my daughters – a digital photo album that can serve to stimulate my memory of places I have visited including Paris, London, Bath, Rome, Lake Como, Turin, Venice and Cartagena.

In out Creative Meetup, after we were introduced to The Diving-Bell & the Butterfly, we were given two prompts for our reflection and writing:

  1. Even if bed-ridden (or compromised in any way),where do you travel in your mind?
  2. How has illness impacted your ability to travel?  You can write about a specific travel experience from the past or one you hope to have in the future.

As I reflected on these questions I became acutely aware that my present chronic health conditions severely restrict my capacity to fly long distances.   In particular, my multilevel spinal degeneration makes lying or sitting in one place for any length of time very difficult, sometimes resulting in sciatica, a condition I experienced previously following a trip from Milan to Hong Kong.  This realisation saddened me, but I resolved to take on board Jean-Dominque’s inspiring journey and undertake virtual travel journeys, aided by visual technology.

Mindfulness practices can help us to regulate our emotions, appreciate what we do have and can do and be more aware of nature and its capacity to inspire wonder and awe.  As we grow in mindfulness, we can find creative solutions to our limitations and constraints.

I composed the following poem when reflecting on our discussion and writing:

Finding Inspiration

There is inspiration everywhere,
if we seek to become aware.

Portability through podcasts,
audibility through audiobooks.

People creatively managing multiple challenges,
resolving restrictions and incredible constraints.

Driven by passion and purpose,
to rethink, reframe and redefine.

Sharing without stint,
shaping their environment.

Their agency hard-earned,
Look, listen and learn.

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By Ron Passfield- Copyright (Creative Commons license, Attribution-Non-Commercial -No Derivatives.

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