Writing “In Community” for Healing

During the recent Healing Through Writing Festival, Grace Quantock presented on the topic, Living Well with Chronic Illness.  Grace maintained that people with chronic illness often have to deal with missed symptoms, explaining away illness, and social exclusion.   She stated that it is often harder to gain belief from others than to deal with the symptoms themselves.

Grace identified an experience that I have had with diagnosis of chronic illness.  She indicated that people with chronic illness can produce “exhaustive documentation” only to be ignored by medical professionals.   In my case, I spent three hours documenting the major events and symptoms in my medical history over 10 years only to have an Allergist refuse to read the document or add it to my medical file.

The barriers to writing for healing

In a previous post, I explored the idea of memoir-writing for healing as proposed by Janelle Hardy.  Grace argued that there are often barriers to our attempts to write as people with chronic illness.  She suggested that isolation, both emotional and practical (in terms of access to information), creates a personal barrier. 

The writing community itself can also establish barriers by promoting “a productivity culture” that is translated into words-per-hour or words-per-day (e.g. setting a goal of writing 2,000 words per day).  The assumption, as Grace points out, is that writing is a linear process.  However, people with chronic illness have a different relationship to writing time in that they can be intermittently or chronically disabled in terms of capacity to write.  They may have impediments like brain fog, arthritic limbs, chronic fatigue and/or nausea.

Grace maintained that there is an assumption in the writing community, and especially amongst publishers, that writing has to “be a certain way”.  There is a tendency to favour universal experience over individual stories – personal experience and coping strategies are often discounted.  Writers with chronic illness can be blocked by literary gatekeepers who argue that their stories are “too niche” or “not literary enough”. 

Grace suggested that we can too easily succumb to the expectations and standards of others by thinking that we “do not have the credentials” to write or “lack the recognition or prestige” required to publish.  This mental barrier makes it harder for us to envisage our “own writer’s journey” (which will be unlike that of anyone else).  Often relevant credentials are difficult to acquire because of lack of access to training and/or the availability of empathetic mentors.

She argued that the real or core questions relate to “what we hope for in the writing” and what will have the most positive impact for us.

Strategies for overcoming the literary barriers to writing with chronic illness

According to Grace, a starting point is to change our expectations of ourself in terms of written output but also in terms of healing outcomes.  She warned that writing with the mindset “that writing has to fix us” (it must be “reparative”) can actually harm us.  An “extractive mentality” can do us violence.  She suggests that instead of trying to “write to heal”, that we view writing as “a way that is healing”.  The process itself is healing; the healing outcomes are beyond our control. We have to move from an outcomes-focus to a process focus and write the best way we can, given our physical, mental and emotional states.

Contribution to a literary lineage

Grace suggested that we reframe the writing process by acknowledging that we are contributing to a “literary lineage” – writers with chronic illness – and, in the process, creating our own legacy.  There are writers with chronic illness who have considerable literary achievements such as Alice Wong (with Lupus); Flannery O’ Connor (with Spinal Muscular Atrophy); and Virginia Woolf (serious mental health conditions).  Over recent months, I have been inspired by Jennifer Crystal, author of One Tick Stopped the Clock: A Memoir, who contracted Lyme Disease from a tick bite. Jennifer is a weekly columnist for the Global Lyme Alliance, creator of the Writing to Heal Immersive Program, and story coach/facilitator for the Health Story Collaborative.

Grace argued that by writing with chronic illness we are creating documentation that can lead to personal and system change.  By navigating the process of writing about difficult or challenging health situations, we are creating “words that will outlive us” and offering possible solutions or strategies for someone else experiencing chronic illness. She stated categorically that “the poem we write today might be a lifeline somebody else finds after our lifetime”.

Grace contends that our writing – whether as a novel, memoir, blog, poem or journal – can be a “springboard for the next person” as we can be offering alternatives and providing evidence of their efficacy.  We can reframe our solitary writing as “part of a larger network” and a contribution to our “collective experience, collective tapestry and collective legacy”. 

Cultivating our literary community

A strong theme throughout Grace’s presentation is her emphasis on networking within our writing community.   She proposes three core strategies to take advantage of the mutual support and resources that can be available through such a network:

  1. Name three people who are part of your literary community.  In thinking about this, I was able to name Annie Brewster, Jennifer Crystal, and Jennifer Harris.  Annie is the creator of The Health Story Collaborative (HSC), designed to “harness the healing power of stories”.  She is the author of The Healing Power of Storytelling: Using Personal Narrative to Navigate Illness, Trauma and Loss
  2. Identify an element of their work that resonates with you.  I have networked with each of the authors mentioned above when they have been facilitators for the monthly, online Creative Meetups, hosted by HSC.  The Meetups are a network activity for writers with a chronic illness.  Each of the facilitators have a profound knowledge of narrative therapy and a very strong commitment to helping people to heal through shared personal narratives.
  3. Exchange literary support with other members of your literary community, e.g. re-tweet, write supportive blog posts and create book reviews for members of your literary community.  I have had correspondence with each of the previously mentioned Creative Meetup facilitators, and they have read my blog posts and poems and offered support and encouragement.  I have also mentioned their work and promoted their writing in my blog posts, e.g. articles about Annie Brewster and Jennifer Crystal.  The Creative Meetups themselves involve a community of writers who willingly share their stories and their writing.  The participants offer supportive challenge and the constant encouragement to move towards healing.

Reflection

Grace has made me more aware that I am not writing alone as a writer with chronic illness and that I am not just writing for myself and my own health.  As I become more aware of my participation in a literary community, I can become more conscious of how I can support, and be supported by, others in my literary community,

This newfound appreciation enhances my gratitude for my ongoing access to an understanding literary community where I don’t have to explain myself, defend my position or pretend to be someone other than who I am.

As we collaboratively grow in mindfulness through our reflections and writing, we can increase our connectedness, build our mutual support and deepen our insights.

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Memoir-Writing for Healing

Janelle Hardy, writer and somatic healer, recently produced and hosted the Healing Through Writing Festival with multiple facilitators who themselves are writers and healers.   Janelle is the creator of the course, The Art of Personal Mythmaking: Write Your Memoir While Healing Yourself, which is designed as a self-directed approach to healing while writing the first draft of a memoir. 

The 13-module course includes writing prompts, somatic visualisations and other techniques, and a process for outlining your storytelling.   In developing the course, Janelle drew on her training and consulting experience in bodywork and somatic approaches to trauma healing.  Her techniques and tools enable course participants to gain “clarity, focus and structure” as they write to heal.

Janelle also offers a 9-module, self-directed course, Write Your Life Stories, Heal Your Past, which is also designed to help us heal from our difficult experiences while working on a memoir.  This self-paced memoir-writing course incorporates somatic healing techniques as well as guidance for choosing forms of storytelling, assistance in outlining a memoir, ways to overcome writer’s block and tips about the writing and editing process.  The course is designed to help us deal with our difficult life experiences through writing without becoming overwhelmed.

Writing prompts and the road to healing

Throughout her Festival presentation, Janelle offered several writing prompts designed to elicit recall and identify elements of our life story.   The prompts covered both challenging and rewarding experiences, bodily sensations and personal insight.  I found the prompts particularly fruitful for “loosening the cobwebs”. 

By way of illustration, Janelle shared her own story of chronic fatigue and her acute shyness. She would often experience a “frozen state”  and become “stuck”, with her creativity blocked. After a relationship breakup, she had to deal with her role of a single parent and, at the same time, cope with her negative self-stories.  She sought healing through multiple modalities including somatic experiencing, dance, writing and research and experience of different cultures.

Janelle highlighted the fact that we store and release stories in our bodies.  This is in line with the research and writing of Bessel Van Der Kolk who published the book, The Body Keeps the Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma.  Janelle introduced a basic somatic exercise during her presentation that involved listening to sounds, touching, stretching and feeling bodily sensations.  She incorporates somatic practices in her courses because she firmly believes that we can reclaim ourselves through our “bodies, stories and desires”.   Janelle described dance as an “embodied language” and found that it helped to reduce her stiffness, tightness, stress and related feelings.

Janelle explained too that we understand the world through cultures.  To really appreciate this idea, she became an exchange student and undertook home stays in Japan, Russia and Canada.  Given the pervasive nature of cultural influences, a useful writing prompt could be, “What influence has your cultural upbringing had on your own life story and how you perceive yourself?” 

I recently gained an insight into the influence of cultural experiences on our self-stories and how we perceive ourselves by reading the novel Runaways, a memoir by Shelley Davidow and Shaimaa Khalil.  The joint memoir tells the story of their 20-year friendship across cultures after meeting at the University of Qatar where Shaimaa was one of Shelley’s students. 

Not only were they “strangers in a strange land”, but also they brought to their relationship and self-stories the influence of their different cultural upbringings – Shelley was an Ashkenazi Jew from South Africa (with its entrenched racial tensions) and Shaimaa was an Arab Muslim from Egypt (with its class tensions).  Their memoir shows the intertwining of different cultures on the stories they shared and how their story was influenced by their life in Qatar. 

Shelley and Shaimaa explain what shaped them, broke them and the ways they returned to “wholeness”.  At different times in their shared storytelling they communicated their individual experiences and reactions in the form of a reflective poem

Janelle offers a series of writing prompts which are available from her website by subscribing to her newsletter: 10 Memoir-Writing Prompts for Healing and Transformation.  Her blog, which contains interviews with creative writers, essays on writing and reviews of websites, is a potentially fertile ground for other prompts.

Creating a theme for a memoir

The process of writing to story prompts enables us to discern various themes, common threads, in our life story.  We can then choose a theme to shape our memoir – exploring which stories in our life serve the theme.  Janelle explained that the selected theme then becomes a “tool for discernment” – assisting us to decide what stories to include and what to exclude.   We can potentially use the discarded stories as the basis for another memoir. 

This process of choosing a theme reminds me of my process in writing my doctoral thesis – the data collected could have been the basis for several different theses but I had to decide what was my central “claim to knowledge” and what data I could include to warrant that claim.  This involved then deciding what elements supported the core thesis and should be included and what should be left out.  I created a folder to store the other ideas and concepts for perusing at a later date.  When I submitted my thesis, I revisited my folder and produced a number of articles including one on the art of thesis writing as a movement through the Seven Chakras, from the Base Chakra to the Crown Chakra – a reflection on my thesis writing journey.  The thesis also incorporated my reflections on my role as a change manager within the Taxation Office – a potential theme for a memoir.

Janelle noted that memoir writers often write more than one memoir as they have several themes running through their lives.  The Australian author Shelley Davidow, for example, wrote  4 memoirs – Runaways (2022), Shadow Sisters (2018), Fail Brilliantly (2017) and Whisperings in the Blood (2016).

Janelle explained that a memoir becomes a meaning-making force that enhances agency and autonomy.  She shared her story of heartbreak and challenge that left her feeling abandoned and hurt.  Through writing, social support and somatic healing she was able to reframe her story from that of victim to someone with skills, choice-points and the opportunity for further personal development through self-employment.  She rewrote her story by “piecing together somatic healing and memoir-writing as an act of service” that enables people to avoid the disempowerment of a victim mentality and experience agency through creating a new self-story in the form of a memoir.

In her podcast, Janelle talks to storytellers and memoir writers along with healers.  The transformative conversations cover not only memoir-writing but also healing, narrative therapy and embodiment.  Through the podcast, storytellers share how they have moved from victimhood to personal freedom and agency. 

Reflection

Janelle has used her blog as a source of “personal mythmaking” by reflecting on her own life experiences as she shared insights on topics related to writing and healing.  Her essay and audio on “How to Shift Resistance” is a good example. 

I have found that in writing this current blog, I have been able to share my personal reflections on the topics I was writing about.  In the process I have been sharing my life story.  In reviewing the 775 posts I have published to date, I have been able to identify several core themes that would serve as the focus of separate memoirs.  I have now chosen one focal theme and begun writing my first memoir using the Kindle Create program as my writing and formatting process.

As we grow in mindfulness through somatic practices, reflection, blogging and memoir-writing, we can increase our self-awareness and sense of agency and reframe our life stories.

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By Ron Passfield – Copyright (Creative Commons license, Attribution–Non Commercial–No Derivatives)      

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